Sometimes everything comes to a head and we have so much still to learn and we don’t seem to be making progress. It can be frustrating, we make the same mistakes even though we’ve gone over this point a hundred times. We are working hard and getting nowhere;
” That’s it, that’s the end of it we are not capable for progressing any more – this is our highest level and this is where we are going to stay, We’ve reached our ceiling and there’s nothing more to do!”
Learning a language ( and this is true of many things) is not an ‘onwards and upwards’ activity. There are peaks and troughs, hills and valleys and worst of all seemingly endless plateaux!
Do you remember learning to ride a bike as a child? How many times did you wobble? How many times did you fall off? How many times did you throw the bike down and stomp off?
In the end though wasn’t it worth getting back on, trying again and finally succeeding?
How good did it feel when that happened and how thrilled were you to be able to ride off down the road alone!
There is only one way and that is to be patient and persevere.
So back to language. There is a great saying in English ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’ Things of great value take time and burn slowly. Take a deep breath, step back and think hard about what you have really achieved so far. You will probably find that it is much more than you give yourself credit for.
Then analyse your English honestly:
- What is your goal?
- Where are you having problems?
- Where are you feeling frustrated (think of some actual occasions when your English wasn’t good enough – is there a pattern?)
Once you know where the blocks are (or try and get help identifying them if you don’t know) then break everything into manageable chunks and go step by step. For example if you think your vocabulary is letting you down then design some strategies for improving this – read a book a month, or a daily news article or learn 10 new words a week – whatever works for you.
Don’t be too ambitious do as much as you can manage – 10 minutes a day is better than 2 hours once a month – keep it simple. Try and use ‘dead time’ in your day while traveling or waiting for a bus or train, that way your learning won’t be interrupting other activities and vice versa.
So here is the 4P approach to learning English (we came up with this at a Gapfillers forum chat)
I’ve said a lot about this already. It is vital – you cannot learn all you need to learn in a day. If you start your study knowing that you must be patient it may stop you from becoming overwhelmed.
I firmly believe that anything worth having is worth pushing for and unless you persevere even when you don’t seem to be making progress you will NEVER succeed!
No skill will improve without practice so unless you dedicate some time to improving and developing your English regularly then you will become frustrated and you will not make progress. Honestly, if you are not prepared to practise you might as well go and find something else to do instead!
This is actually using your English! There is little point in doing all the hard work if you are not going to step up, be brave and actually speak or write. There are opportunities across the web to do this – find some. Make some opportunities for yourself to perform your English!
Finally here are 10 top tips to help you improve your English and stop you getting overwhelmed or frustrated!
- Do a bit every day
- Plan – an approach or strategy for your learning
- Choose something interesting
- Choose something with (immediate) feedback
- Set a time limit
- Follow the tips and advice given on the web-site
- Join a forum or chat room and USE IT
- Re-visit, repeat and recycle
- Smile 🙂 you know more than you did 10 minutes ago!
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